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During my 25 years as a marital therapist, I have seen hundreds of people disappointed over unfulfilling relationships. I have seen passion turn to poison. I have grieved with patients for the love they lost or never found.
“We seemed to love so much, but now it’s gone,” one woman lamented to me. “Why do I feel so lonely every night even when he is right there beside me? Why can’t marriage be more than this?”
It can. I was once invited to the 60th-anniversary celebration of a remarkable couple. I asked the husband, Peter, if he ever felt lonely and wondered where the love between him and Lita had gone. Peter laughed and said, “If you wonder where your love went, you forgot that you are the one who makes it. Love is not out there; it’s in here between Lita and me.”
I know we can love deeply, tenderly and lastingly. I have seen such love, and I have felt such love myself. Here are the law I have discovered for such lasting and loving relationships—put time where love is.
A fulfilling marriage begins when two people make time together their No.1 priority. If we hope to find love, we must first find time for loving.
Unfortunately, current psychology rests on the model of the independent ego. To make a lasting marriage we have to overcome self-centeredness. We must go beyond what psychologist Abraham Maslow called “self-actualization” to “us-actualization”. We have to learn to put time where love is.
Many couples have experienced a tragic moment that taught them to value their time together. One husband related how he sat trapped in his car after a crash. His wife was outside, crying and banging on the window. “I thought I was going to die before we had enough time together.” He told me. “Right then I promised to make the time to love my wife. Our time is our own now, and those hours are sacred.”
Yesterday I was surprised that my sansevieria trifasciata had come into blossom which is I have grown for nearly one and a half years. It’s my pleasure to see the little green flowers that make me believe everything would be ok if you try your best to do it.
One and a half yeas ago I just bought two leaves of Sansevieria trifasciata, then I planted it into the flowerpot. At that time, my family members thought it would be dying before long. It’s only me insisted that it could be growing well. I clearly remembered one of my colleagues at previous company has told me that the plants would smile back if you show a smile to them. Maybe just at that moment I can not believe, however, I totally trust it. It’s indeed the plants will grow more and more beautiful when you always look at them and they must understand your words if you say something to them.
Living plants enhance the air quality of indoor environments, and also have been shown to induce positive energy. Green plants can absorb carbon dioxide. And we will feel refreshed as we see them. Perhaps a small pot of green plants, it will give us unlimited joy. Plants need soil, water and light like we can’t survive without water and food. But they will be growing nice with our love. The love of plants is really the important thing of how to grow and understand them. If you nurture a plant, please give your selfless love, eternal love.
More than once I have indulged myself in the elaborate and emotional sentences of Twilight. Twilight is not one book. It is a serie of romantic novels,mainly themed on transpecies’s love. Even though I have not finished all, yet the first two books,twilight and new moon, I am yearning to know how the senario is going on.
Different from other novels of vampire , it totally dispeles such black gothic atmosphere once depicted in traditional ones, instand , a bulk of blue hue,the color of twight ,have bravely painted on the background and meanwhile the morden blues of bitter sweetness lightly hauted in my mind. As the novel discribed, the young Apolotype vampire ,named Edward who was immortal ,wandering in the secular world from one place to another for nearly 400 years. Every 7 years he would change his domicil ,his caree or his school . He had no companions except his vampire family and he clearly knew everyone he met doom to leave, so he could be able to hold on his emotion not to close other people .Everything was in schedule and still untill his sight encountered with a girl , Isbella. On one hand ,he was inevitably attracted by her,eagering to draw near,on the other hand he must struggle with himself against the impulsion to suck her. If wolf and sheep could live together? The old topic once again formed the climax of the novel. This is not only the conflict of Edward himself but also the conflict through the whole novel .
Another highspot of twilight is its author’s highly ability of writing.The author,Stephenie Meyer is good at pyschological description.Every word can easily catch your breath and the structure of the whole sentence is clear ,tidy and crisp,which is other than such masterpieces that always imbued with murky expressiones. And more the author is never mean to spill her emotion out.Now I still remember the senario of Edward’s farewell to Isbella:
“Take care of yourself,” he breathed, cool against my skin.
There was a light, unnatural breeze. My eyes flashed open. The leaves on a small vine maple shuddered with the gentle wind of his passage.
He was gone.
Plus,when I compared the novel with GuLong’s ,I am surprised to find out they are both similar in concision.
However,this is my general impression of twilight.Maybe someone would wonder if the wind and dew can exist together to brew the nectar,or oneday the dew would be gone with wind.
